Friday, 22 April 2011

Men 'worried' about heavy internet porn use?

I haven't posted much here recently because I've been busy hunting and gathering words, and then training them to go in the right order on some pages.

However, this attracted my attention the other day: a BBC report 'Men 'worried' about heavy internet porn use'. Apparently 'A quarter of men aged 18-24 are worried about the amount of porn they are watching on the internet, new research suggests. Heavy users in the study were much more likely to report problems with their jobs, relationships and sex lives.' The research was conducted jointly by the BBC and the Portman Clinic for the report.

The issue of 'being worried' by the amount of porn they're consuming was based on self-reports of worrying about this, though the actual amount of porn these people watched was presumably variable.

The BBC quotes Jason Dean, a counsellor who runs a website for online sex addicts, as saying of his clients: "It used to be mainly middle-aged single guys but now I get more contact from women, teenagers and people in their 20s."

This report is interesting at a number of levels, mostly to do with questions the news report doesn't address (and the full study, incidentally, doesn't seem to have appeared on the Portman Clinic's website).

How and why, exactly, are people (okay, men) coming to use pornography at a level they consider worrying? I can imagine several dynamics at work. For example, the stress involved in everyday life and worrying about a job can make someone more withdrawn, less able to cope with others, more likely to use porn as a substitute for social interaction, and the visual stimulation becoming more 'real' than any actual relationship. But then I was brought up on a mixed diet of Frankfurt School philosophy and poststructuralist thought that would make that sound a reasonable explanation of what's going on.

A more pithy view, expressed by the late science fiction writer J G Ballard, might also be applicable: 'A widespread taste for pornography means that nature is alerting us to some threat of extinction.' Well, possibly not so much extinction as a radical change in social relationships that make porn itself more intimate, more desirable, than sex-for-real?

Ballard also said (in his book The Atrocity Exhibition): "Sex is now a conceptual act, it's probably only in terms of the perversions that we can make contact with each other at all." And this, too, seems to me to speak to the situation. Porn as a common language? Porn as the shared set of social expectations by which people relate to each other?

I'm not quite sure how to read Ballard's comments but they seem somehow prescient and significant.Maybe that's just me, because I used similar ideas in a story collection that should (I hope) be out in the next week or two. And I'll run off now because I feel I should make notes on this theme for later recycling in a story... But any thoughts or responses are welcome!

2 comments:

  1. Well,it would be interesting to know the statistics for women using/needing porn. Do they mean porn just to get aroused, or porn as a substitute for sex? Is anyone out there being intimate any more? And practically everything that J.G.Ballard says, scares the hell out of me!

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  2. Thanks for the comment! I don't know about 'needing' porn, but the male/female breakdown given in the article was almost 8 out of 10 men and a little over 3 out of 10 women who'd looked at porn on the internet; and average 2 hours/week looking at porn for men and 15 minutes/week for women.

    Whether porn is for arousal or as a substitute - probably motivation varies, and it may even be that one individual will use porn for different reasons at different times. I suspect this is an area we know almost nothing about, and the best repository of knowledge probably lies with the production/distribution companies themselves!

    As to the Ballard quotes - I agree his comments always seemed slightly scary, but also prescient. I have a sneaking suspicion people increasingly relate to each other in ways that mimic porn and that in a sense intimacy is increasingly becoming a matter of sharing perversions, as he put it. But I don't have any hard evidence to support that thought.

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